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variablejabberwocky replied to your post:
i’ve been feeling kind of awful these past few…

…im so confused at the thought someone needed to genderbend naruto OR loki to get a het ship. like…they’re both shapechangers. in canon. im just…so confused. confused and dissapointed

ah, but see, that wouldn’t be het, it’d be secretly gay. or at least, that’s what i assume the logic is behind these things. i stopped giving them even a paragraph’s grace after i was traumatically bitten by an opening scene with a harriet potter pouting in a mirror, and now i don’t click through at all.

my impression of the fem!harry, naruto, bilbo, loki, etc thing was that it was about thinly veiled self-inserts, the writers of the fic openly being like ‘yes but what if A GIRL LIKE ME was karkat?’, not necessarily fussy hets straightening up a popular gay ship. tho probably most of the girls that invest so much time and energy into writing a fic where the now-female young and inexperienced protagonist gets an extremely traditional romance novel relationship with a brooding and troubled guy who slowly comes to respect and then rely on her….. pretty sure most of those girls are straight. queer kids tend to have other issues than thinking the Asshole Dude Gets Tamed By Spunky Young Lady trope is the zenith of romance.

like it’s always fem!harry with snape or sirius or some other older, broken guy, or maybe draco at a stretch— not ginny or hermione or even ron. narutina gets with kakashi or itachi or sasuke, not hinata. it’s the straight girl fantasy of winning the respect and adoration of the powerful men who run (and ruin) your life, not the much more queer fantasy of finding a mutualistic, supportive love with your peers. kind of a shame.

yeah, i reckon so. and honestly, i would never rail against self-insert wish-fulfillment fic. it’s not written for me, and that’s okay. i just really wish they’d be up front about it. let your oc be an oc. you know?

I want to bring a few additions to this. I likely wouldn’t have said anything, but Tumblr has been frustrating me to high-hell and there’s a particular trend on here I find disturbing (to put it mildly!). Let’s take it in order, from bottom to top:

let your oc be an oc. you know? 

Thing is, if we’re referring to self-insert purposes here, there’s a difference between an individual OC built for the purpose…. and someone wanting to self-insert specifically into The Boy (Girl) Who Lived or Bilbo (Bilba) Baggins or Luke (Luka) Skywalker. An original OC in the same role (WhatsHerFace is now Vader’s long-lost daughter!) might fulfill the purpose… but, at least a while ago, it was also the fastest way to get oneself in the crosshairs of a dozen ‘Sue-Hunter’ blogs and spork-lists and whatever else along those lines. Then there’s also the simple question of why one even has to bother with creating a whole OC from scratch, when, again, the purpose is to self-insert into the Boy (Girl) Who Lived, where an ‘Always a Different Gender AU’ does the job just fine.

Here’s where I get into what I find disturbing.

it’s the straight girl fantasy of winning the respect and adoration of
the powerful men who run (and ruin) your life,  not the much more queer
fantasy of finding a mutualistic, supportive love with your peers. kind
of a shame. 

pretty sure most of those girls are straight. queer kids tend to have
other issues than thinking the Asshole Dude Gets Tamed By Spunky Young
Lady trope is the zenith of romance. 

If someone comes up and asks me ‘Rho, what drives you absolutely BONKERS about opinions on Tumblr these days?’ the above would be in the Top 5. I am sick and tired beyond all measure of the implicit or explicit statement that, because I am a queer woman, I should have a higher probability of enjoying, preferring or prioritizing, to quote again, ‘finding a mutualistic, supportive love with your peers’ when it comes to my fantasies or the fictional content I prefer. I probably wouldn’t be so frustrated if I didn’t get slapped with this notion on a regular basis, on Tumblr, to the point where I want to rip my hair out.

At the core of this whole thing, there’s this notion going around here, expressed in different ways, that queer (in this case, bi/pan) women’s modes of attraction are fundamentally and radically different from those of straight women. And for some bi/pan women, that may well be the case, I don’t contest it. But for a lot of us? I grew up thirsting after dark, dangerous damaged men (and dark, dangerous, damaged WOMEN, in the rare moments when I could get them, thank the Lord and Hallelujah), alongside a gaggle of other teens, the majority of whom turned out to be some shade of queer (two cis gay dudes, one trans gay dude, three bi women, a pan woman and a biromantic ace woman).. Never in my life, until the last two years or so on bloody Tumblr, was I ever made to feel that a portion of my fantasies and desires were ‘straight girl’ fantasies or that they should be manifesting in an entirely different way because I was queer. 

Here’s an example of what enormities people can spout, under this model of thinking. Tumblr keeps tossing around the word ‘fetishization’ like fireworks on the US 4th of July, but so far, not even every single rendition of ‘Holly and Monica Go Wild XXX’ has made me feel more skeeved-out and, frankly, furious, than this weird pedestal-building, ‘you’re Better / your modes of attraction are Better because you’re queer.’ I don’t know how it logically follows that I had greater concerns then trashy romance, when it was precisely trashy romance that was one of the things that kept me sane and acted as an escapist fantasy when the world was at its darkest (when I got assaulted for being with a girlfriend, when I got assaulted for wearing my hair in a buzz-cut, when it felt like I was a freak, all alone in the world, etc).

Also, controversially, but can I also be 500% Done with things getting put down because they’re ‘straight girl’ fantasies, to begin with? It’s as if people on here have somehow lost touch with the fact that female fantasies and naked desires are still maligned and stigmatized as all hell, regardless if the woman is straight or not. Recently, a Big Geek Site put up an article on fanfiction. The comments were about what I expected – a small army of men mocking and deriding women as a whole, calling us ‘obsessed’, saying that we’d ‘never marry’ and just a whole cavalcade of misogynistic bullshit that I didn’t even bother memorizing.

I get being frustrated when something that looks promising or interesting turns out to be a damp squib – I do. It happened to me in the Rurouni Kenshin fandom. I wanted to read fem!Kenshin, because the idea of lesbian swordswoman in the Meiji Era was just too good to pass up. But everyone who wrote fem!Kenshin paired her up with Saitou or Sanosuke or wrote Kaoru as a man. I was frustrated by the lack of what I desired – but instead of putting down the other writers in my mind, for focusing on what they enjoyed, I sat down and got to writing. Those other writers were 100% entitled to working on what gave them the most pleasure, just as I was entitled to do the same.

Hey, does anyone know where I can find some dark, damaged women in fiction? Preferably f/f pairings but it would also be incredibly awesome if a younger, weaker man was the one to try to heal a dark, damaged, older, powerful woman through love or some shit like that.

No video games, I can’t play anything more advanced than Atari 2600.

Reminder that whenever you see someone sneering about Straight Girls™ it is because they are deliriously and slaveringly thanking their stars that they finally have an outlet that’s socially acceptable to woke people for being virulently, openly, reductively misogynistic because queer girls are “not like other girls.”

Honestly I get it. It’s so hard to have so much toxic hatred for women inside you if you also know that expressing this hatred is wrong—especially if you’re a woman yourself! Intellectually knowing that internalized misogyny is a thing doesn’t seem to help. It’s so stressful and disturbing, so trapping and panic-inducing, to feel that boiling, uncontrollable, frantic, possibly-triggering hatred frothing inside you at the sight of women existing, and also knowing it’s wrong and bad to say the sorts of things non-woke misogynists say about women.

Thank god, thank god, thank god, that on tumblr we queer girls can just insert the word “straight” in front of “women” and not only feel ok about saying all those things, but also feel like we’re somehow flaunting heteronormativity. Eh?